Asking for Help
Riley Children's Grief Team
Many friends and family will want to help support you but won’t know what to do. It may seem awkward or you may feel like you “should” be able to do things on your own, but allow friends to help with routine tasks if possible. Be open to sharing what is helpful for you and what’s not. Most importantly,
- Place a list of chores or needs on the fridge and when a friend asks “How can I help?” refer back to the list.
- Have a friend start a meal train to provide a dinner at least one night per week for several months.
- See if families can assist with pick up or drop offs/carpooling for siblings.
- When seeking grief counseling, consider meeting with someone who specializes in grief.
Here are some questions you might ask a counselor before scheduling an appointment:
- What grief models do you use when working with families?
- Companioning, Compassionate Bereavement Care, Dual Process Model are all best practice models
- Avoid counselors who use the 5 Stages
- How many grieving parents have you worked with?
- How long do you typically meet with grieving parents?
- Avoid counselors who respond with a specific timeline (i.e. 6-8 weeks)
Consider joining a support group or online support network specifically for grieving parents. It can be helpful to connect with other parents who also have lost their beloved children.
If you feel you are in crisis and in need of more urgent support, please contact the crisis hotline at 1.800.273.8255 or text “HOME” 741741.